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I wanna be a good wife...
So I need to know how to do all those things around the house! I kinda sorta have a maid at my parents house...so I'm spoiled cuz I only hafta clean my room! I know how to do all the stuff but like how often should I clean the bathroom/vacuum/dust etc? Any hints would be great! Any tips at all to do with like time management/cooking/cleaning, everything! I need to learn! Thanks :)
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Re: I wanna be a good wife...
I dust and run the vac everyday, I have an infant in the house though who is everywhere. I have a dyson vac and I will tell you one thing I was worth every cent I paid for it. We have had every brand the Dyson tops the list for me.
Sunday is my laundry day... I have the boys doing their own they are soon to be 15 and 17 and they really need to know how to do that stuff. I sort wash dry fold and hand. I never leave stuff in baskets, that's a bad monster to feed. I know because I had to starve him :)
Kitchen floor we hit it every other day, we have alot of traffic and again the baby.
My bathroom, once a week does the trick, the boys's bathroom 15 times a day wouldn't be enough.
You will figure out alot right away once you guys get under roof together, everything pretty much is going to be decided on the habits you both have. Best advice I can give you is since there is two of you try to make housework a priorty & don't let it get away from you. If you start good habits now it will make it alot easier on you in the long run especially if you would decide to have kids.
I always thought cooking for two was difficult only because it seems like so much work. I love cooking for a group. I am big on using the outside grill we use it year round, I also have a grill for my counter that gets used alot. Especially for breakfast everything can cook together. Love my crockpot wish I had more recipes. Found a great board with recipes though- actually tryng some tomorrow. Don't fret the cooking. It will come to you. It's just something that takes time getting comfy in the kitchen if you aren't already.
I like to do tub and shower after I get out of them only because my boys don't like to do that :).
Everything is so much easier if you keep on top of it. And a good wife lets a husband help, The kids Dad loved to cook he did a lot of it. He also wasn't above laundry, or anything else that came up. Him helping doesn't mean you aren't a good wife. When there is 2 of you it's easier if you would decide to have a family most likely he'll need to chip in some.
As i think of things I'll post. House full of kids tonight, so I am not at my best. I would imagine you are a bit stressed about this stuff, but I promise ya you'll catch on and get the hang of things, you'll come up with things that work for you guys, as well as meals and the like. It doesn't happen as soon as the ring goes on the finger. It takes time and thats part of the fun of it.
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Re: I wanna be a good wife...
Actually Guessy thats a tough question. First, take some time to get to know each others' habits and routines. Since you haven't lived together, its sorta like getting to know a new roommate. The cleaning habits we have are born out of necessity for having kids in the house, but it was alot different when it was just us since two adults don't make nearly the dirt kids do. Plus, if you get/have a dog or cat, that will dictate how much you do. I have heard good things about the Dyson's as well. We have a system that runs through our house, so its way different.
I will say after I got married I tried to be the perfect little wife and get up every morning and make him breakfast with a kiss before leaving for work, nice dinner at night etc etc and you know what, it was exhausting and totally not me!! We just needed to get adjusted to each other and then things fell into place by themselves. I think your mom is a great resource for you since she knows your habits and you have been raised with how she keeps house etc. I agree with lost, just stay on top of it and don't let it get away from you- once a week for most things is pretty good, but I would clean the kitchen up everyday if you can, its just feels good to start the next day with a clean kitchen.
Cooking for two is hard, but not as bad a cooking for one. Just have leftovers or send them for lunch the next day. Crock pots are great and so is having nice cooking utensils and pans/pots. Find a recipe book you like or go to allrecipes.com or southernliving.com for really good variety of recipes. If you can follow directions, you can cook- the little hints and tricks will come over time and with practice. Its been 9 years for me and I still learn things all the time by trying new things.
Hope that helps :) Pm me or post more questions and we'll see what we can do to help more.
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Re: I wanna be a good wife...
thanks for the advice ladies! i'm sure i'll have a lot more questions once i've moved away from home!
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Re: I wanna be a good wife...
Once you guys get under roof together and get settled you will learn a lot about the little things that matter and help things run smoother. Something else I just thought that might be helpful... this is going to be new to you both ~ don't bottle everything up in regards to the others habits because if you don't say something the other one isn't going to know you are driven nuts. If you notice right off the bat that he leaves milk in the bottom of the glass and it drives you nuts you might want to say something in a loving way otherwise if you keep it bottled, he won't know how it irks you and 3 years from know you're going to blow. I am not saying pick everything to part, you have to pick and choose the battles ~ some stuff will bug you but you can handle it other things though might need brought out in the open. Rolled up socks are my thing. Nothing irk me more than a dirty pair of balled up socks, when I see that I see instant red. It's one of those things I wish I had nipped in the bug and iddn't because I wanted everything to be perfect.
Very exciting time. I mish not being excited about being in love with someone. Enjoy it
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Re: I wanna be a good wife...
that's really good advice! i'm good for nipping things like that in the bud though...i have him well trained in a few areas hehe...when he's doing something that annoys me i just give him a look and he knows and he'll stop :D i hafta remember to keep it up once we're married...i'm sure he'll have his share of pet peeves about me too hehe
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Re: I wanna be a good wife...
thanks giggles! the maid always jokes that i'm gonna hafta hire her too lol...unfortunately i'm working full time right now and she cleans our house while i'm at work! we're applying for an apartment today to move in june 1st so that's when it begins for me! but the apartment has a dishwasher so that will help me hehe...
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Re: I wanna be a good wife...
Maid?? I guess you mean the cleaner? I hate that term actually as it reminds me of slavery! I do understand it's a common term in the US tho' as my sis uses it.
One question - are 'maids' commonly used by families over there? Lately in Ireland with the 'Celtic Tiger' I hear of more families with cleaning ladies who come in a couple times a week but I still can't get used to it! Mind you with the state of our house (hubby is the stay at home one) I probably should get used to it and get out and hire one before we all keel over with dysentry!! LOL!
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Re: I wanna be a good wife...
lol suzi at the dysentry. I know it is becoming a bit more common here in the states because alot of families require both parents to work in excess of full-time to make ends meet.
I have actually thought about it myself, sometimes it would be nice to have someone help with getting the walls and carpets done or help with the windows and the like... but I would not be crazy about someone doing our laundry, scrubbing our toilets and the like. The boys do help and I appreciate it. But I would love for someone to come in and give me tips as far as streamlining the tasks and getting me a more organized way of keeping up with this house. At all times I keep the downstairs as straight as it can be (key words... as can be). A busy week can really throw us for a loop though.
I hear ya as far as hubby holding the fort down. Greg stayed home with the baby after we had her (he stayed on the wagon just about the whole year) I notice while he rides the wagon though he keeps his carriage a bit of a mess :). I tried to overlook the dust bunnies as he was giving great care to our little one. He kept the kitchen pretty decent and did his best with the laundry. The baby was the issue and he really did do an excellent job with her care. There were times I thought jee man ee I have to get this place in order before the board of health shuts us down, lol. Work was very understanding, when I needed a day off to catch up around here or for just baby time they actually encouraged it.
Our home isn't sterile, it's lived in... would imagine it stays that way until the boys head off for school or the service. I always tell Livy we'll be dainty ladies luxury when the boys begin their families. We already have our bathroom planned... awhhh closed lids and flushed toilets are in our distant future I just know it. About the time that happens I'll have a home full of grandbabies but Livy and I will enjoy our time even if it ends up being a week and a half :)
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