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My son has been talking about this gal friend of his. I have been so pleased as his friends are coming around the house more and hanging out. I do try to give them privacy when I notice girls have come over with the guys (always in groups and not too much privacy, if ya get my drift). Been so tickled he has logged off the net and becoming more social. Inside myself I have visions of secret microphones and cameras hidden throughout, but know that just isn't possible, lol. I like to be in the know, I can't help it it's the mother in me... Well we have been talking and the other night I said about this friend Rachel... I can see a change in him, he's glowing and spending alot of time away from the computer. So he came out of the closet, they are dating. Bear with me this is a first for me. So I came to terms with my 17 year old son socializing more and having a girlfriend - big stuff to watch unfold (thank you therapist, he has really come around since we started going or it could be coincidence, anyways happy for therapy)
I meet her tonight. My heart is pounding a mile a minute and I look like a busted bail of straw- she will be there when I get home... I can't even salvage this look today as I am sporting a ponytail that rode with me through the night, a Nike sweatshirt accessorized with Sherwin Williams paint (I know I wore this sweatshirt when pregnant with my 14 year old), shorts I fish in at camp and a pair of the boys ankle socks. I could just curl up and die but wouldn't want ambulance crew or coroner too see me looking like such a boofer. This is the downfall to me working in a relaxed environment that doesn't deal with the public. My morning ritual consists of 3 minutes with an oral B and crest- lol
Dying here, he has a girlfriend, I am meeting her, I look like a boofer, I think the bottom of the coffee table needs dusted (I did put him on that) & i know their potty is a disaster because it always is (I put him on that as well, but you can imagine how a 17 year old and 14 year old tiday a bathroom).
Any words of wisdom are greatly appreciated. I sure hope I like her, he's a good kid and his friends seem great, girlfriend is a whole 'nother story though. The thoughts of him having sex terrify me- certainly he is not... but I am a realist. Hellllllppppppp :omg:
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Eek! Don't have a clue, all ahead of me - let us know how it went!!!! It's wonderful tho' - a sign of progression and growing up etc.... :hrts
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I have taken a nerve pill :omg:
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She is just a wonderful gal. Wow I am totally blown away~ My Zak has a great heart, she compliments him wonderfully. We had such a great evening. I can see why he was drawn to her as a friend and why he decided to let her be the first girl he wanted to take it a bit farther with. She was worth the wait. Funny, polite, respectful, good sense of humor. smart, caring ~ she has a lot of very obvious genuine, good qualities. I'll be anxious to spend more time with her and get to know her. I couldn't be happier though.
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:hooray
that's so great!
I am so happy for your son - and for you too
you'll have to keep us in the loop now you know?
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I think it's so cute that you were nervous about meeting the girlfriend - imagine how she felt!!!
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:hooray
That is just the best :party
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My Dad ended up popping in I needed a p trap fixed in the downstairs powder room & he is my Mr. Fix it man. He's a silly man, always in a good mood so he worked on that and visited as well with us ~ I am not quite sure what she thought, she had to think he was nuts (but he is, in a very fun way) he is also a "loud talker" neighbors hear all of our silliness I am sure when he visits, some of you guys might have heard him- he has no comprehension of an "inside voice". He was at his finest last night, right down to getting inside the baby's playhouse and having a spot of tea with her. So she was blessed with meeting the family in our normal wacky mode and she seemed to enjoy herself.
My nerves were shot yesterday, neither have brought a girl home that they have liked, so I knew this was pretty serious for Zak and I wanted to make the right impression. We're pretty laid back, our home is lived in, we get silly at times, we get angry. We're a team and have a lot of fun but I have to be the captain & with all the silliness I do run a pretty tight ship. Certain lines can't be crossed. I didn't want to come off as a Leave it to Beaver, perfect home~ because to the outside looking in it's far from perfect, but perfect for us.
I drove her home last night. She was 10 minutes late (I didn't know this until we were in the car). And I explained her parents rules are every bit as important to me as they are to her parents. She is welcome anytime but we will respect curfew and she will have to be home at the time they specify. I also explained I am all about having fun and getting to do neat things but that we enjoy spending time together at home on the weekends too. We have a baby in the house and we only have uninterupted time with her on the weekend and I feel its very important that she get to spend time with her family & that obviously includes brothers, but we're always thrilled to have anyone else hang out with us too. So while I want them to go out and do their thing and have their fun~ time has to be made for the baby as well, she's too important to just not to make time for. And I don't want them to feel like they have to be on the run to enjoy spending time together, we have alot of fun at our house and they can have fun there too
So I was nervouse as all get out, this was a first for me and I was so scared that his choice would be to spend time with someone I wasn't comfortable with, but she is a great gal. I didn't want to come off as anything but what we are and I wanted her to be someone who was comfortable with that and understood there's a lot of fun to be had~ but there's reasons that it works.
More to come I am sure, they're 17 and Dear Jesus everyone is aware of what that means... so when I come totally unglued about the big stuff I'm going to need someone to share it with... :omg:
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oh my god you are amazing - that is text book parenting that is - what a woman *thumbs up*
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I am thinking here in the not too distant future I should call the girls parents. Zak spends time there and I would imagine she will be hanging out with us. I would like them to know I am home in the evenings and that I will gladly run the kids where they want to go and so on ~ I would think communitcation/ introductions are appropriate. Do parents still do this??? I have alot of kids in and out of the house through the week and on the weekend and it doesn't seem like parents check on this kind of thing anymore. The boys look at me like a lunatic when I ask for specifics as they relate to their travels. So I am unsure how to handle this. I would think her parent's would want to know though when they are down at Zak's house I am home, and also know when I say that I will take them or pick them up somewhere I am good to my word, a safe driver and I will follow through with the curfews and guidelines they have established in their home for their daughter.
I am textbook ~ textbook lunatic is probably closer to describing me than anything out there, but I do try to be a good parent. These teen years are giving my ticker a workout though. Nothing brings home the fact that I am officially middle aged like being a parent to two teen boys. With the baby I can still act as if I am a young pup~ but with these boys I have to face the facts - it mortifies me at times. The things that come out of my mouth I sound just like a parent and I swore in my rebellion years that would never happen. :omg: I just can't believe how time moves so quickly in some respects and how a person changes.
Thanks for the thumbs up, this is new to me and I am winging it so it's nice to know I am not totally blowing it in someone's eyes.
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awwww!!! you're such a good mommy to be so concerned about his love life! i'm marrying the guy i started seeing when i was 17 hehehehehe
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