kismet815
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Re: Age 17, eek
I hope everything goes well with your son. You definetely made a step in the right direction. It sounds like he is a good kid he just has some issues with things he has had to deal with. With this help, it sounds as if he will be just fine.
I guess I'm lucky. My 16 going on 17 yr. old hasn't given me one day of trouble his entire life. Believe it or not, I overheard him and my godson (who is going on 18) talking one day. Right after valentines day my son and his g/f broke up. My son told my godson that his g/f wanted to have sex and he told her he wasn't ready for that kind of relationship. I couldn't believe it. My younger son (he is going on 14) will probably turn my hair white.
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Things have turned around so nicely. I spoke with his guidance counselor yesterday~ he aced everyone of his finals and has all of his work turned in ~ she wanted to let me know I will be knocked off my feet with his final report card, she also wanted to let me know that she is going to miss him in the school, which I thought was nice of her to say. She hopes I will keep in contact with her filling her in on how he does next year at the Senior High.
Therapy has been very good for him. He really enjoys speaking with Mike. He goes every week or two. Through the summer it will be every 2 as he won't have school issues to discuss. He will have girlfriend issues though~ so I think it's important he has a man to speak with about that. Although we talk very openly in this house. I just had a very big conversation with both him and the girlfriend this Friday night. I explained where I stood on on it~ I also reminded them I knew very well what it was like to be 18 and before things got serious we needed to handle things responsibly, talk openly about everything to look at what could happen as a result of deciding they were ready for sex. Both at this point state they want to wait and want to wait until marriage. That's nice to hear if it's the case and not just lip service. I had to ensure the lines of communication were open should they have thoughts they are uncomfortable sharing.
I did get lucky when it comes to the kids fortunately we have always talked about things and there has been no trouble~ they are teens though so I sit on ready, just in case an issue comes up that has to be dealt. I really do feel we will get through the teen years pretty easily though. I know things are a lot smoother with them than it was with me and for that I am so thankful.
How wonderful your son realized sex is a very major deal and he wasn't ready- that's vital these days. I hope the 14 year old doesn't turn your hair white~ I'll keep my fingers crossed for you.
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It sounds like your son is doing great. I wish all parents had the nerve to sit down and talk with their children the way you have. Talking w/him and gf, you get bonus points. When it comes to your children, you can't alway depend on other parents doing their job. A good friend of my family just became a grandmother. Her daughter had so much promise. She had great grades in school never got in trouble, but her mother never sat her down and really talked to her. A few days after mother's day, she went into labor and had a little girl prematurely. Now, the father also 17 is pulling disappearing acts on her. Not only is she dealing with a newborn but a newborn with the special needs of a premmie.
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That's what I am so afraid of happening here and that's why I felt I should talk to them both. His girlfriend is a honors student. Zak just came off a year in which he pulled it together. I am just very afraid with both of them being so wrapped up in "falling in love" at least thinking they are in love~ I don't want to see either of them do anything that could result in something as critical as bringing life in to the world that neither or them are ready for.
Both kids seem to have pretty decent heads on their shoulders~ I obviously don't know her as well as I know my son, but I have seen her grades, she excels and I do spend time with her. I can tell she has a good heart, she has goals and she is very capable. They both are. First love can throw such a wrench in the works & I remember very well being young and in love.
I hope they both understood at the end of our talk I care for them both and I just want them to have every opportunity in life. And above everything else I want them to know they can talk to me and I am not going to go nutz if they dare mention sex, drugs, alcohol ~ any of the biggies. It really is the biggies kids that age need the most help with and seems to be the ones they get the least help with.
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